I am glad and overjoyed you made it this far into the site! To truly know oneself takes no small amount of courage, resolve, and vision. So I am hopeful that you recognize the benefits of Sex and Intimacy Coaching.
There are a few things to keep in mind when thinking about sex and intimacy coaching:
This work is self-directed. This means that you, the client, get to choose what you want to explore, how you want to explore it, and how far you want to explore (of course within the parameters of Sexological Bodywork practice and ethics).
I am merely an educator, coach, and teacher. Although conversations about sexual history, trauma, and other personal subject matter might be discussed (this is expected), I am not a therapist. I encourage you, if mental health is required, to seek out trained and qualified mental health professionals. This work, however, has the potential to augment your mental healthcare.
Some of the work I invite you to do will happen before a session, much will happen during, and some will occur afterward. Because I am engaging and welcoming your entire being into these practices, I invite you to take inventory of your own erotic landscape before entering into session. Keep in mind that depending on the level of work we do within a given session, shifts may occur long after you have left the appointment. I encourage you to be gentle with yourself and provide for yourself the utmost level of self-care.
SESSIONS
At the beginning of each session there will be time set aside to create a container for our work together. This will usually entail some grounding breaths, discussions about questions and/or concerns, intention setting, and determining how your body would like to engage in your erotic coaching session. Rapport and trust are especially important upon your first few sessions.
REMEMBER: THERE IS NO RUSH!
This can not be stressed enough! This is your body, so it's important for you to know that I will go at your speed and engage you in your time frame. I will never pressure you to disrobe and jump on the massage table if you are not ready. This work is about consent and respect - respect for the spirit of our work and respect for your body.
ENDURE NOTHING!
Often clients will express a certain level of confusion in the direction of their education. I use my intuition based upon your intake, expressed concerns, discussions, and previous sessions to suggest a path forward. At any time, it is your right to say "No." Because the context of these sessions are educational, teaching you how and when to say "yes" and "no" is a cornerstone to that learning - boundary setting. As I like to say in this work, "Endure nothing." If you're enduring, then you most likely are not receiving pleasure. And not receiving pleasure is often a hairbreadth from "checking out" and not being present in the experience you are having.
During session we will continue to remind you of the 5 pillars - breath, movement, sound, touch, and intention.
During coaching sessions, clients sometimes struggle with staying present. This is common. It takes practice to re-integrate and break old habits. Be patient with yourself during this process. The fact that you are even engaging in this experience speaks volumes! I will always help lead you back to your body. Communication is also key. I will continue to engage you on how various aspects of the session are going and if there is anything you would like less or more of. Again, this is a practice. The more you do it, the easier it will become to know what your body wants.
Savoring and Integrating
At the end of every erotic embodiment session, there will be a time for savoring. Savoring is a time of rest set aside after each hands-on session to provide your body an opportunity to reflect, integrate, and process the data of the session. Think of it as the "afterglow." After a session, a client might be very open to the spiritual plane. Savoring often allows time for important information to come through in the form of thoughts, images, and/or answers to a particular need or question. Of course, each experience varies from client to client.