But are we...better?

Are we more full? Are we more, embodied? Are we more, alive?

As our minds have evolved, our sensate bodies have diminished from the fullness of light and vitality to the depths of darkness and spiritual disembodiment - truly from heaven to hell. We are cut off - from the divine, from each other, from ourselves.

In many traditions, sex and sexuality are the vehicles through which a closer relationship with the divine is achieved. However, within our culture, sex and spirit, much like religion and science, have often been purposefully and diametrically pitted against each other. War ensues, and we, those who truly need healing from our sexual traumas, guilts, shames, and self-debasing conditionings, are kept from truly merging our sexuality and spirituality into a wholesome, life-giving, and embodied existence.

This condition of disembodiment goes beyond any one religion, creed, or way of life. Many of us, perhaps most, suffer from this affliction. We are taught not to feel, not to fully breathe, not to touch and enjoy physical contact, and in the interest of not being unseemly - to be silent. We condition our bodies to live with tension - ignoring pain, regular body signals, and lock our bodies in patterns that create stress, discomfort, and other medical ailments.

Instead of adopting more (w)holistic ways of living, we often default to pharmaceuticals, and pharmaceuticals are far easier to take than changing debilitating habits, right? But at what cost? How many of the ailments we medicate can be alleviated merely by spending time creating healthy habits of embodiment?

But how, you ask, does one cultivate a lifestyle based on genuine embodiment, a spiritually sexy existence, if one is never taught how?